"You must bring him to a condition in which he can practice self-examination for an hour without discovering any of those facts about himself which are perfectly clear to anyone who has ever lived in the same house with him or worked in the same office."
The Screwtape Letters, Letter III

I have found that it is easy to deceive ourselves. I have often questioned my own motives and had trouble figuring out why I want something. A friend of mine said, "Sometimes I think that I make myself think that what I think is good is what I want, but I'm not sure if it actually is." Often, I believe that we make what we want what we feel we should want. I should want to have a good job, or I should want to spend time talking about hair with other girls, but this may not be what I would actually prefer. Perhaps I don't really care about hair, but our culture says that as a girl I should be concerned with my appearance. So, to fit in and develop relationships, I convince myself that I really do care (because who wants to spend time talking about something they care nothing about?). Is there really such a thing as the "real" you? If you can't even admit to yourself your true desires or motives how can you ever show anyone else these things? And, to be even more complicated, how do you ever know if you truly are being real, maybe you're just deceiving yourself.